As Venus transits through Aquarius, it creates a quincunx to your composite Lilith in Cancer, setting the stage for friction and transformation within your interpersonal dynamic. Aquarian Venus suggests a desire for independence, while Cancerian Lilith hints at deep emotional needs. There's an inherent disconnection between wanting the freedom to engage with the world and a simultaneous yearning for near-umbilical emotional security within the relationship.
During this phase, you may find yourself in an oscillating pattern of drawing close only to push each other away, a dance of attraction and repulsion. Unforeseen tension might arise from misaligned emotional needs; one of you yearning for intimate connection and security, the other seeking novelty and experimentation. This quincunx signals a requirement for adjustment, indicating that you may need to strike a delicate balance between nurturing as a couple and preserving your individual freedoms.
For instance, one might crave a cozy night in, wrapped in the safety and comfort of shared understanding, while the other yearns for a thrilling intellectual engagement at a gallery opening. The challenge is enabling the relationship to satisfy these contrary pulls without neglecting your individual desires or perplexing your partner. To that end, you might experiment with alternately satiating your desires - spending one evening in the sanctuary of your shared home, and the next exploring the wilder terrains of social environments or intellectual pursuits.
During this transit, self-awareness is crucial. Actively address the issues created by this Venus-Lilith quincunx to avoid any unintended emotional harm. Ground your relationship in respect for each other's needs while remaining mindful of the inherent Aquarian individuality and Cancerian deep emotional connection. Working collaboratively through this transit can lead to substantial growth, bringing you closer together as a couple, and still preserving the wonderful uniqueness of each partner within the relationship.
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