As Lilith transits through Cancer and squares your composite Pholus in Aries, you may find yourselves entering a period marked by intense emotional undercurrents and transformative shifts in how you manage vulnerability within your relationship. This alignment invites you both to confront the darker or previously hidden aspects of your partnership, particularly surrounding themes of nurturing and autonomy.

Lilith in Cancer stirs deep-rooted issues connected to emotional security and the need for nurturing. In your case, this may surface feelings of emotional rawness or expose areas where one or both of you feel that your emotional needs are not being met. This nurturing is not just about comfort but includes honest acknowledgment and handling of feelings that might have been sidelined in your relationship dynamic.

Meanwhile, Pholus in Aries in your composite chart generally animates a rapid release of energy and sudden developments, often linked to the assertion of individual identities or the expression of pioneering impulses. The square from Lilith challenges this expression, creating a tension between your desires for personal freedom and the need to care deeply and perhaps vulnerably for one another.

This dynamic can manifest as power struggles or conflicts that seemingly erupt from small triggers but actually reflect deeper issues of control, care, and autonomy. It is crucial during this period to pay attention to what these moments are really expressing. Are there underlying fears of being too dependent or not dependent enough? Is there a balance between supporting each other and maintaining individuality?

Navigating this phase effectively requires open communication about vulnerabilities and fears without resorting to protective or defensive postures. Transformative potential lies in allowing yourselves to experience this tension without rushing to resolve it prematurely. The growth in your relationship will come from understanding the interplay between closeness and individual freedom, learning how to blend emotional depth with personal integrity.

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